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Ask the Man Who Owns Him The real lives of gay Masters and slaves

Ask the Man Who Owns Him is the first book to present, in their own words, the real lives of long-term gay Master/slave couples and families. Sixteen slaveowners and their properties around the U.S. and in Canada welcomed the authors into their homes and spoke candidly about how each relationship started, how it evolved to meet the challenges of living in conventional society, and how it works today. All of these bonds have lasted for at least three years, some for well over a dozen years.

These relationships are different from the Master/slave stereotypes of erotic fiction. They’re also different from what you may find in how-to books and Internet postings on the subject. Instead of reading what a single writer says this lifestyle “should” be, discover what a generous sampling of gay Masters and slaves are actually doing.

Most striking is how different these relationships are from each other. Tradeoffs are made, deals struck, and power exchanged in ways that work for these unique individuals pursuing their respective dreams.

Who should read this book? Anyone who’s wondered if being a Master or slave is right for him, or who wishes to understand this lifestyle better. If you’ve read the fantasies and felt something was missing, or tried the experts’ prescriptions and found them wanting, this book is for you. Ask the Man Who Owns Him describes real-life strategies and tactics for success as a Master or a slave.

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